There is one thing I really miss about my single days: time for girlfriends. I love being married and I love being a mom, but I have noticed the time and energy demanded by these primary relationships don't leave many opportunities of pursuing or maintaining deep relationships with my girlfriends.
My friends understand - most of them are moms in the same boat. By the time we work around nap schedules, work schedules, travel schedules, doctor appointments and babysitters, we all collapse onto our respective sofas and decide that maybe a phone chat is the best we can do this month.
But frankly, not investing in friendships leaves a huge hole in my live. And so one of the adjustments I am determined to make this year is to spend more time, and have more fun, with my girlfriends. This will take some real effort on my part, especially in the dead of winter when my instinct is to hibernate. But here are some of the ways I intent to get started:
- Be intentional! Take the initiative to propose activities and get them on the calendar.
- Start simple. Have coffee while the kids play.
- Have fun! Risk doing things that you rarely (or never!) get to do anymore.
- Spend an afternoon browsing antique shops or art galleries.
- Sign up together for an art or dance class.
- Invite friends to give each other a "glamour makeover," and then go out to see a movie.
- Call the local day spa and see if you can get a group rate.
What about you, mom? How can you make girlfriend time more intentional this year?
Remember, we do a Mom's Monday the last Monday of the month! These are the perfect opportunity to get out and connect with other ladies.
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